High School Football Coach Susupends Players for Lack of Character

Some players were skipping classes, others were getting poor grades, others had a poor attitude and even a few were suspected of cyber bullying a fellow-student at the high school. The coaches at Union High School in Roosevelt, Utah, were displeased with the overall character of the football team. “We felt like everything was going in a direction that we didn’t want our young men going,” said head coach Matt Labrum. "We felt like we needed to make a stand."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eqxJTxL5kyM (view the story)

And, take a stand is what the coaches did. The week before homecoming, Coach Labrum made every player turn in his jersey. He suspended all practices and games until the players made significant strides. Each player could earn their way back on the team by, (1) attending all classes, (2) providing community service, (3) attending a character education class and (4) attending study hall. In other words, the players had to get their act together and represent their school with pride.

Author's Perspective #1: I want to applaud the coaches for understanding their real role with these boys, which has nothing to do with winning and losing games. The first, second and third priorities of any high coach is to teach life lessons, prepare students for success after high school and instill character. Good coaches understand that winning is a natural by-product of successfully achieving these priorities on a consistent basis. It's easy to say it, but to put it into practice requires courage and integrity. 

Author's Perspective #2: I want to applaud the players for rising to the challenge. It would have been easy to complain, point fingers or quit. On some level, they were able to see the bigger picture and to embrace the life lesson. Each understood that it is a privilege to put on a jersey and represent their school. By meeting the coach's challenge, their season and their lives will be far greater. 

Author's Perspective #3: I want to applaud the parents of the players for trusting the coaches and allowing the process to unfold. It was important for each student to struggle through the turmoil, renew a commitment and change. Only a collection of wise and trusting parents could allow such a process to unfold.

Author's Perspective #4:  I ran cross country and track in high school. My coach, Jim Brandt, used to tell me that 20 years from now I will not remember the wins and losses. It will be the life lessons, the friendships and the commitment of working toward a common goal.  He was right.

This is the kind of story that truly inspires me. I commend Coach Labrum and his assistant coaches for creating lasting change in the lives of 80 student-athletes - and in the process - I hope they sent a larger message to the rest of America too. 

Your Turn (1) respond via this blog, (2) comment on Facebook page (character development & leadership) or (3) tweet to @CDandLeadership using #CDandL):
1) Social Media Question: Did the coaches go too far in this situation? How would you have responded if you were on that team?
2) Do you think the team will get stronger as a result of what the coaches did? In what ways?
3) These coaches believe it is a privilege to play high school sports. What do you think?

A Dairy Queen Employee Does the Right Thing - Integrity

Joey Prusak, a 19-year-old Dairy Queen manager, witnessed a blind man drop a $20 bill while standing in line. A woman who was standing behind the man in line picked up the $20 bill and stuck it in her purse. Joey came out from behind the cash register and confronted the woman, "I'm going to ask you politely to return his money." She said it was hers. Joey told her, "If you're not going to return the money, I'm going to have to ask you to leave." Joey then walked up to the blind man, took $20 out of his wallet, and said, "On behalf of myself and Dairy Queen, we want to set things right."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J27Ty9iyJvg

Now, if that isn't impressive enough, Joey then... went back to work and didn't tell anyone what he did. He didn't brag about it to his boss, take $20 out the cash register to reimburse himself or do some celebratory touchdown dance. He merely went back to work. However, a customer who witnessed the entire incident wrote a complementary letter to the Dairy Queen Corporate Office. As you know in the world of social media, one thing led to another, and the story went viral.

Ordinary people wanted to recognize Joey for his integrity and honesty, so they started dropping by the Dairy Queen to give Joey $20. Warren Buffet, the second richest man in the world, called him on the phone, to commend him. Buffet, then invited Joey, who is majoring in business, to attend the annual share-holder's meeting via his private jet. My guess is that Joey will be offered a nice six figure job after he graduates from college. Not a bad $20 investment. 

Author's Perspective #1: One of the week 5 (honesty) ethical dilemma questions is, "Imagine that you found a  paper bag at school containing just over $300. Nobody saw you pick it up, and there was no identifying information on or in the bag. How would you handle this situation?" I then ask a follow up question, "What would a person of strong character do?" I use this follow up question to point out the difference between "what we would do," and "what we know to be right." The "right" thing is so obvious it hurts. There are no qualifications, "what if," "maybes" or "buts." We all know what a person of strong character would do, but unfortunately, most of my students qualify and quibble. Joey Prusak did not. When the moment arose, he boldly did the right thing at every step in this scenario. In fact, it is textbook - it could not have been drawn up any better.

Author's Perspective #2: On some level, I have to agree with Joey when he says that he doesn't understand what the big deal is. He just did what he would have done any other day. But, that's the point, isn't it? This points to his integrity and his beliefs about fairness, right vs. wrong and honesty. He is being celebrated right now because we see story after story about some fool who steals, cheats, or lies, and those cumulative stories cause people in this society to doubt humanity, and what it is becoming. People like Joey Prusak, remind us that society still has character, integrity, decency and humility. Joey teaches us that there is still a right and a wrong. The lady in line was wrong and Joey was right (period). For that, Joey is a positive role model, and I applaud him.

Author's Perspective #3: I will be sending Joey Prusak a copy of the Role Models textbook and a $20 bill. There are 1,600 schools using the Character Development & Leadership Curriculum. I estimate that 2,500 classes are being offered this semester across this country. If every one of those classes gathered $20 ($1 from every student) and sent it to Joey, that would be a total of $50,000. He has pledged to give all donations to charity. Given his integrity, I trust him to pass the money on to a good cause. Please join me in sending $20 donations to:
                   Dairy Queen - C/O Joey Prusak - 1800 Main Street - Hopkins, MN 55343

Your Turn: Tell me your thoughts about this story and my commentary. 
(1) respond via this blog, (2) comment on Facebook page (character development & leadership) or (3) tweet to @CDandLeadership using #CDandL)

Teachers Carrying Concealed Weapons: A Solution or a Problem?

The Facts: The deadliest school massacre in US history occurred 15 minutes from my house in Bath, Michigan when a janitor set bombs throughout the school, killing 45 children in 1927. Other infamous and tragic school shootings have shocked us to the core: 15 high school students were killed at Columbine High School (1999), 33 were killed at Virginia Tech University (2007) and last year 20 first graders were killed at Sandy Hook Elementary School. In total, 137 students have been killed at U.S. schools since 1980 by a bullet from a gun.

 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_school_shootings_in_the_United_States (interesting stats)

Arming Teachers: In 2013, some districts have proposed a bold and controversial step to deal with an active shooting on school grounds. This step includes training and arming a few teachers in each school building. These teachers would come from a pool of volunteers who then are highly screened to carry a concealed weapon while at the school. Teachers would be trained on how to handle an active school shooting.

http://usnews.nbcnews.com/_news/2013/08/01/19822082-arkansas-school-districts-plan-to-arm-teachers-ruled-illegal?lite

Controversy in Arkansas: One such district that proposed such a plan is Clarksville School District in Arkansas. David Hopikins, the Superintendent of schools argued for the program saying, "We continue to have these school shootings, and we continue to do the same thing. We're going to lock the door, and we're going to hide and hope for the best. Well, that's not a plan!" However, just before the 2013-2014 school year began, Arkansas Attorney General Dustin McDaniel, vetoed Clarksville's plan, saying the state code does not authorize school employees to carry guns on campus.  Instead, he advocated that the district hire local police officers or contract with an outside agency for further protection.

Pro: History shows us that when it comes to a school shooting, the only thing that can stop a bad person with gun is a good person with a gun. And, the superintendent in Arkansas is correct. Hiding and praying is not a plan when confronted by a shooter in schools. Something needs to be done and given the current economic times, schools cannot afford to hire police officers or outside firms to handle protection. Several states, including Texas and Utah, already allow teachers to carry concealed weapons and nothing tragic has occurred. This is a sensible and economical plan that protects children at schools.

Con: There are 55 million students in k-12 education in America. Since 1980, 137 have been killed due to a bullet from a gun. Consider the odds of actually dying in a school - it is infinitesimal. Now, imagine the odds of getting killed - accidentally or on purpose - if two teachers in every school across the country carried a loaded gun. How long would it take to have a gun-safety accident? How long before a teacher uses a gun inappropriately - perhaps points a gun at two kids fighting or loses his/her temper and does the unthinkable. How long before a student(s) wrestles a teacher to the ground and gains access to the weapon? In other words, this attempted solution will probably cause more fatalities than it stops. 

Your Turn (1) respond via this blog, (2) comment on Facebook page (character development & leadership) or (3) tweet to @CDandLeadership using #CDandL):
1) Social Media Question: Are you in favor of training a few teachers to carry concealed weapons in your school? Why or why not?
2) If presenting to the school board, what plan would you advocate to deal with the unlikely event of a school shooting?

A Little Inspiration for You

Instead of talking about the latest person to screw up society or the role model who failed us morally, I thought I would provide you with a few inspirational speeches. Perhaps one or all of these speeches will inspire you, make you laugh or move you to tears - or maybe all three.

Speech #1: This one is of Deonte Bridges, the valedictorian from Booker T Washington High School in Atlanta, Georgia (2010). I love to hear about people who overcome adversity. It also reminds me that great speeches don't have to be long. Can you rise?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q0Wcr82UOsw

Speech #2: 10-year-old Dalton Sherman provided the keynote talk to over 20,000 Dallas ISD educators on their opening day in 2008. I am not sure where he got this kind of confidence and stage-presence, but he really is amazing. Do you believe?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yZm0BfXYvFg

Speech #3:  Georgia Tech sophomore Nicholas Selby welcomed the school's new freshmen class with a stirring speech. If this one doesn't get you motivated, I don't know what will. I only wish I was this talented. What would you say to inspire your classmates?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=98nNpzE6gIs

Your Turn (follow us & tweet responses to @CDandLeadership using #CDandL):
1) Social Media Question: What do you think makes for an awesome inspirational speech? What speech would you add to this short list of inspirational speeches?
2) What would say to your classmates or teachers to inspire them?
3) Do you think "we" need inspiration?