Two male students got into a fight at Westood High School in Mesa, Arizona. The principal decided to give these students an option - either get suspended or hold hands for one hour in front of other students. Both students chose to hold hands and forgo the suspension. Sounds innocent enough. However, during the one hour punishment, fellow students laughed at them, mocked them and called them names. Students took pictures and placed them on social media sites.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/11/30/westwood-high-school-hold-hands-punishment_n_2218698.html
Point: These two boys fought on school grounds. The principal tried to think of a creative alternative other than the easy 2 days of suspension and missed school time. While unconventional, I am sure the principal wanted to teach a lesson that runs contrary to violence, aggression and fighting. He decided holding hands would fit the bill. He presented the options to the students and gave them the choice. The principal did not "force" them to hold hands, the students chose it. The principal nor the two boys could foresee how immature the other students would act.
Counterpoint: Even though the students "chose" this form of punishment, it was cruel and unusual punishment. Some say it invited taunting and teasing. Some say that two males holding hands is not an appropriate form of punishment because it offends gay individuals and sends the wrong message. In addition, the principal should have run this punishment by the school board before-hand and he should have forseen how this whole incident would play itself out in these modern times.
Author's Perspective: To be honest, I don't know if this was good leadership that showed creativity or poor leadership that lacked insensitivity. What sparked my interest in this story is what happened next: 1) The school board began talking about firing the principal. 2) In response, the students showed their unity for their principal by (get this) holding hands to create a massive human link of support. They even made t-shirts for the protest that read, "Keep Calm - Hold Hands." Using irony and metaphor to make such a powerful point is genius. Here is their point - you don't fire someone based on one controversial decision. Stop burning people at the stake because they tried something outside the box. For if you do, only leaders without imagination or courage will remain!
http://www.usatoday.com/media/cinematic/video/1747533/principal-makes-two-fighting-students-hold-hands/
Your Turn
1) What is your opinion about how the principal handled this incident? If you were the principal, what would you have done?
2) If you disagree with the punishment of the principal, do you think he should have been fired?
3) Do you feel the principal had good intentions or did he deliberately do this to humiliate them?
4) Maybe the punishment wasn't the problem. Maybe the problem was the students' response to the punishment. What level of blame should the student body take for teasing and harassing the boys?
5) If this is a learning point, what did you learn from this entire incident?
Saturday, December 15, 2012
Thursday, December 6, 2012
A Season of Giving
Andre Johnson, a wide receiver, for the Houston Texans, took 12 kids on an 80 second shopping spree at Toys R Us this week. These kids were chosen by Child Protective Services because they had especially difficult circumstances of abuse and neglect. Each child was given a cart and 80 seconds to gather as many toys as they could... and could they ever. The final tab was just over $19,000. Johnson said after the event, "That's what this season is about. It's something I look forward to. The kids are happy, they get what they want for Christmas, and that's all that matters."
http://sports.yahoo.com/blogs/nfl-shutdown-corner/texans-wr-andre-johnson-drops-19k-toy-shopping-205258442--nfl.html (article)
A Country of Giving: I couldn't agree more with Mr. Johnson's statement. Let's remember that there are thousands of individuals and foundations that set aside money and time to help disadvantaged youth. It should also be noted that donating time and money is not just for the rich. In 2010, 88% of Americans stated that they donated time and money to charity for a combined total of $291 billion.
Personal Giving: Two weeks ago my two eldest daughters (6 and 5 years old) and I spent a Saturday packing 1,500 shoe boxes full of clothing, stuffed animals, candy and toys. The recipients are children in third-world countries who have never received a gift in their lives. Each December we visit our bank and select several families to provide Christmas presents. We are continually surprised by the 5 year old who wants gloves or boots instead of a toy. My wife takes our kids to a senior citizen's home to spread our smiles, enthusiasm and well-wishes. This year we selected a soldier to send gifts and cards to while he is serving our country in the Middle East. In a few short years, I plan to take our kids to the Lansing Soup Kitchen on Christmas so my children can appreciate how fortunate they are to have a house and food in the frig.
Your Turn:
1) So, what about you? What do you do to give back? What can you do to make a difference? If you have donated before, how did it make you feel?
2) Has anyone ever helped you out in a time of need? What did that mean to you?
3) It's that time of year. With the help of your class, your family or your friends, can you develop a plan to help others who are less fortunate than you?
http://sports.yahoo.com/blogs/nfl-shutdown-corner/texans-wr-andre-johnson-drops-19k-toy-shopping-205258442--nfl.html (article)
A Country of Giving: I couldn't agree more with Mr. Johnson's statement. Let's remember that there are thousands of individuals and foundations that set aside money and time to help disadvantaged youth. It should also be noted that donating time and money is not just for the rich. In 2010, 88% of Americans stated that they donated time and money to charity for a combined total of $291 billion.
Personal Giving: Two weeks ago my two eldest daughters (6 and 5 years old) and I spent a Saturday packing 1,500 shoe boxes full of clothing, stuffed animals, candy and toys. The recipients are children in third-world countries who have never received a gift in their lives. Each December we visit our bank and select several families to provide Christmas presents. We are continually surprised by the 5 year old who wants gloves or boots instead of a toy. My wife takes our kids to a senior citizen's home to spread our smiles, enthusiasm and well-wishes. This year we selected a soldier to send gifts and cards to while he is serving our country in the Middle East. In a few short years, I plan to take our kids to the Lansing Soup Kitchen on Christmas so my children can appreciate how fortunate they are to have a house and food in the frig.
Your Turn:
1) So, what about you? What do you do to give back? What can you do to make a difference? If you have donated before, how did it make you feel?
2) Has anyone ever helped you out in a time of need? What did that mean to you?
3) It's that time of year. With the help of your class, your family or your friends, can you develop a plan to help others who are less fortunate than you?
Wednesday, November 28, 2012
Black Friday should stay on Friday!
Only in America... do we set aside the fourth Thursday in November for the sole purpose of getting together with family and friends to give thanks for the many blessings in our lives. A wonderful day of reflection, family and traditions. And, on the very next day, we put all that aside to get up before dawn for the pure excitement of finding the best deals on new stuff... and God help those who get in our way. Here are a couple videos of this fun-filled day to get you in the Christmas spirit.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8O6IMYSSs7c
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=endscreen&v=mnu6yZKo7u8&NR=1 (first 30 sec)
What started out as a day to mark the beginning of the shopping season for Christmas has turned into a day of greed, frenzy and bad behavior. We can partly blame this behavior on stores that advertise an $800 TV on sale for $250, but then only stocks three of them. Companies advertise like this to entice people to choose their store over another store and they only stock a few because it is a terrible business plan. The store loses money on the first few customers, but makes money on the next 2 Gazillion shoppers who are in the shopping mood.
Author's Point #1: Ten years ago a few stores opened up at 5 a.m. to jump start this big day of shopping. Two years ago many stores opened at midnight. This year many stores opened at 8 p.m. on Thanksgiving. Restaurants are also opening at similar hours to accommodate shoppers. Because companies see more opportunity for making a buck, hundreds of thousands of store employees are no longer able to enjoy their Thanksgiving holiday. Do you think any of them are able to request the busiest day of the year off? Is anyone thinking about the workers who have no say in the matter of when the stores open? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZwJWe_DMfGc
Author's Point #2: After watching the videos above (and hundreds others like it), I am wondering if this is what Abraham Lincoln had in mind when he declared Thanksgiving a national holiday: people camping out in lines for a week to get a good spot in line, people stampeding in stores like cattle to save a few dollars (a Wal-Mart Employee was killed in 2008 after being trampled by customers - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GqeY7j5TuuE) and people getting into fist fights over merchandise.
Maybe it's just me, but we might want to turn the clocks back on this one. I think 5 a.m. on Black Friday is early enough. Let's value the traditions of Thanksgiving and the lives of store employees over our need to buy more stuff. After all, Cyber-Monday provides the same deals with no lines. I would like to add that as a last-minute shopper, stores continue sales well into December - no joke!
Your Turn:
1) What is your opinion?
2) It's possible that I am wrong on this. After all, three NFL football games were played on Thanksgiving this year. If football is okay, shouldn't shopping be okay?
3) I wouldn't end tailgating at football games because 5% of the fans get too drunk and act like complete idiots. So, why pick on Black Friday because 5% of these shoppers cause trouble?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8O6IMYSSs7c
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=endscreen&v=mnu6yZKo7u8&NR=1 (first 30 sec)
What started out as a day to mark the beginning of the shopping season for Christmas has turned into a day of greed, frenzy and bad behavior. We can partly blame this behavior on stores that advertise an $800 TV on sale for $250, but then only stocks three of them. Companies advertise like this to entice people to choose their store over another store and they only stock a few because it is a terrible business plan. The store loses money on the first few customers, but makes money on the next 2 Gazillion shoppers who are in the shopping mood.
Author's Point #1: Ten years ago a few stores opened up at 5 a.m. to jump start this big day of shopping. Two years ago many stores opened at midnight. This year many stores opened at 8 p.m. on Thanksgiving. Restaurants are also opening at similar hours to accommodate shoppers. Because companies see more opportunity for making a buck, hundreds of thousands of store employees are no longer able to enjoy their Thanksgiving holiday. Do you think any of them are able to request the busiest day of the year off? Is anyone thinking about the workers who have no say in the matter of when the stores open? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZwJWe_DMfGc
Author's Point #2: After watching the videos above (and hundreds others like it), I am wondering if this is what Abraham Lincoln had in mind when he declared Thanksgiving a national holiday: people camping out in lines for a week to get a good spot in line, people stampeding in stores like cattle to save a few dollars (a Wal-Mart Employee was killed in 2008 after being trampled by customers - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GqeY7j5TuuE) and people getting into fist fights over merchandise.
Maybe it's just me, but we might want to turn the clocks back on this one. I think 5 a.m. on Black Friday is early enough. Let's value the traditions of Thanksgiving and the lives of store employees over our need to buy more stuff. After all, Cyber-Monday provides the same deals with no lines. I would like to add that as a last-minute shopper, stores continue sales well into December - no joke!
Your Turn:
1) What is your opinion?
2) It's possible that I am wrong on this. After all, three NFL football games were played on Thanksgiving this year. If football is okay, shouldn't shopping be okay?
3) I wouldn't end tailgating at football games because 5% of the fans get too drunk and act like complete idiots. So, why pick on Black Friday because 5% of these shoppers cause trouble?
Friday, November 9, 2012
Leaders Acting Like Leaders: How Refreshing
For those who don't know, Chris Christie is the Governor of New Jersey. Early in 2012, republicans literally begged Christie to run for President of the United States. He repeatedly refused, saying that he was not ready to be president and he did not want to abandon his state of New Jersey http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W24-CB6nn2k.
He gave the opening keynote address at the Republican Convention and basically slammed President Obama for 30 or so minutes http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IWICurHafqE. It should be noted that President Obama doesn't have any real affinity for Governor Christie either.
However, a week before the election, Hurricane Sandy hit the Northeast coast of of the United States and devastated Christie's home state of New Jersey http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4mZPuTOkmiA.
To their credit, these two individuals put party politics aside and joined forces to provide the people of New Jersey the best possible state and federal resources. It impresses me that two individuals could work together for the greater good and openly praise each other in press conferences www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ssl1R7oXpg4. However, there are some that believe Christie's praise of Obama was the final nail in the coffin for the Republican candidate, Mitt Romney http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E-7Foalz5Qs&feature=relmfu.
Author's Perspective: I have long believed that the problem with America is the divisiveness of the two party system. When the Democrats try to do something, the Republicans stand in their way, and viceverse. Gridlock. Good 'ol fashion party politics. So, it is refreshing to see two strong leaders combine forces to serve the people. Not only did these two men work together toward a common goal, they acted the ways leaders should act...like..well...leaders.
Your Turn:
1) Two men working toward a common goal might sound easy, but think of the person who you hate the most - perhaps someone who has been your biggest critic and called you names. Could you overcome your feelings and work toward a common goal? Could you praise your enemy in public?
2) Why do you think Republicans and Democrats have such an issue working together for the good of the country?
He gave the opening keynote address at the Republican Convention and basically slammed President Obama for 30 or so minutes http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IWICurHafqE. It should be noted that President Obama doesn't have any real affinity for Governor Christie either.
However, a week before the election, Hurricane Sandy hit the Northeast coast of of the United States and devastated Christie's home state of New Jersey http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4mZPuTOkmiA.
To their credit, these two individuals put party politics aside and joined forces to provide the people of New Jersey the best possible state and federal resources. It impresses me that two individuals could work together for the greater good and openly praise each other in press conferences www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ssl1R7oXpg4. However, there are some that believe Christie's praise of Obama was the final nail in the coffin for the Republican candidate, Mitt Romney http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E-7Foalz5Qs&feature=relmfu.
Author's Perspective: I have long believed that the problem with America is the divisiveness of the two party system. When the Democrats try to do something, the Republicans stand in their way, and viceverse. Gridlock. Good 'ol fashion party politics. So, it is refreshing to see two strong leaders combine forces to serve the people. Not only did these two men work together toward a common goal, they acted the ways leaders should act...like..well...leaders.
Your Turn:
1) Two men working toward a common goal might sound easy, but think of the person who you hate the most - perhaps someone who has been your biggest critic and called you names. Could you overcome your feelings and work toward a common goal? Could you praise your enemy in public?
2) Why do you think Republicans and Democrats have such an issue working together for the good of the country?
Monday, October 29, 2012
93-year-old man's last duty - voting!
One of the questions in the week 3 ethical dilemma is, "If you knew you were going to die before the end of the semester, what one thing would you like to do before you die?" Not one student ever said, "I'd like to vote." Yet, Frank Tanabe, a 93-year-old World War II Veteran, diagnosed with inoperable cancer, made a decision to stay alive until he could vote just one last time. A few days later he died. Mr. Tanabe saw voting as a right, a duty and a responsibility as an American citizen.
http://www.foxnews.com/us/2012/10/22/picture-wwii-vet-3-casting-ballot-in-hawaii-captures-hearts/
A Short History Lesson: After Japan attacked Pearl Harbor, Hawaii on December 7, 1941, which essentially brought America into WWII, over 100,000 Japanese-Americans were forced into "internment camps" during the war. The US Government was fearful that these Americans were loyal to Japan. Frank Tanabe and his family were among these thousands of Japanese-Americans forced from their homes and their lives. Frank was forced to withdrawal from the University of Washington and locked up. Yet, while at the internment camp, he decided to enlist in the US Army and played a key role in interrogating Japanese prisoners during the war. He was awarded the Congressional Gold Medal last year for his service to his country.
Author's Perspective: Many of you are still too young to vote, but please take a moment to understand the importance of your right to vote in this country. This right should not be taken for granted. Women were not allowed to vote until 1920. Study the Civil Rights movement in the South to understand the history of African-American voting in this country. Voting is a civil liberty and many have fought and died to protect this and other liberties.
American Voter Turnout: In 2008 we saw the largest turnout of American voters ever - 64%. That's right, 36% of Americans with the right to vote (18 or older, not in prison, not previously convicted of a felony and sane) decided not to vote. Was it a burden? An inconvenience? Apathy? My opinion is that if you give up your right to vote, you also give up your right to complain!
Please learn the issues. Read up on the candidates and the proposals. Watch CNBC and then watch Fox News to get both sides. Don't believe a 30 second advertisement designed to sway uninformed voters. Do your own research. The only thing worse than a a non-voter is an uninformed voter.
Your Turn:
1) If you could vote in this year's election, would you? why or why not? Would you be an informed voter or an uninformed voter? Would you still vote if it was a cold and rainy day?
2) Do you find Frank Tanabe's story to be inspiring? Despite all the discimination he faced, why do you think he felt so strongly about voting?
3) Mr. Tanabe saw voting as a right, a duty and a responsibility as an American citizen. Do you agree? Do you think it's your right not to vote?
Mr. Tanabe died shortly after filling out his absentee ballot.
http://www.foxnews.com/us/2012/10/22/picture-wwii-vet-3-casting-ballot-in-hawaii-captures-hearts/
A Short History Lesson: After Japan attacked Pearl Harbor, Hawaii on December 7, 1941, which essentially brought America into WWII, over 100,000 Japanese-Americans were forced into "internment camps" during the war. The US Government was fearful that these Americans were loyal to Japan. Frank Tanabe and his family were among these thousands of Japanese-Americans forced from their homes and their lives. Frank was forced to withdrawal from the University of Washington and locked up. Yet, while at the internment camp, he decided to enlist in the US Army and played a key role in interrogating Japanese prisoners during the war. He was awarded the Congressional Gold Medal last year for his service to his country.
Author's Perspective: Many of you are still too young to vote, but please take a moment to understand the importance of your right to vote in this country. This right should not be taken for granted. Women were not allowed to vote until 1920. Study the Civil Rights movement in the South to understand the history of African-American voting in this country. Voting is a civil liberty and many have fought and died to protect this and other liberties.
American Voter Turnout: In 2008 we saw the largest turnout of American voters ever - 64%. That's right, 36% of Americans with the right to vote (18 or older, not in prison, not previously convicted of a felony and sane) decided not to vote. Was it a burden? An inconvenience? Apathy? My opinion is that if you give up your right to vote, you also give up your right to complain!
Please learn the issues. Read up on the candidates and the proposals. Watch CNBC and then watch Fox News to get both sides. Don't believe a 30 second advertisement designed to sway uninformed voters. Do your own research. The only thing worse than a a non-voter is an uninformed voter.
Your Turn:
1) If you could vote in this year's election, would you? why or why not? Would you be an informed voter or an uninformed voter? Would you still vote if it was a cold and rainy day?
2) Do you find Frank Tanabe's story to be inspiring? Despite all the discimination he faced, why do you think he felt so strongly about voting?
3) Mr. Tanabe saw voting as a right, a duty and a responsibility as an American citizen. Do you agree? Do you think it's your right not to vote?
Mr. Tanabe died shortly after filling out his absentee ballot.
Monday, October 15, 2012
Bullying...Just Plain Mean
When Whitney found out she was nominated for homecoming queen, she was surprised... giddy... elated. When she logged on to Facebook later that day, she discovered that her nomination was a joke and she felt humiliated... devastated... suicidal.
It's difficult to believe that this story could occur, particularly in a small town within my home state of Michigan. It stands to reason that many students thought it would be funny to vote for Whitney just so they could make fun of her. Many students had to think this was a good idea. They must have seen this as no big deal. Not one of these students put a stop to it, told the administration what was going on or cared that this was just plain mean. Shame on them!
To her credit, Whitney decided to show up... to show up those bullies who thought her nomination was a joke... to show up on homecoming night and represent her sophomore class with pride. Instead of letting the situation define her, Whitney defined the situation. Good for her!
To the town's credit, the community decided to take a stand... to stand up for Whitney... to stand against bullying... to stand against being mean. A dress shop donated her dress, a florist donated flowers and a salon did her hair and nails for the big event. Good for them!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tzlqBh9Jyh0&feature=related (local story - 2 minutes)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k8PAf472QnM&feature=related (CNN - 2 minutes)
Your Turn
1) Why do you think someone would initially think this is a good idea?
2) Why did so many students go along with this idea? Why wouldn't someone just tell a teacher or the principal what was going on?
3) If you were the administration, what would you do in this situation?
4) How do you think Whitney, the school and town will be changed by this incident?
5) This became a national story covered by most of the cable news networks? Why? What do you think the moral of the story is?
It's difficult to believe that this story could occur, particularly in a small town within my home state of Michigan. It stands to reason that many students thought it would be funny to vote for Whitney just so they could make fun of her. Many students had to think this was a good idea. They must have seen this as no big deal. Not one of these students put a stop to it, told the administration what was going on or cared that this was just plain mean. Shame on them!
To her credit, Whitney decided to show up... to show up those bullies who thought her nomination was a joke... to show up on homecoming night and represent her sophomore class with pride. Instead of letting the situation define her, Whitney defined the situation. Good for her!
To the town's credit, the community decided to take a stand... to stand up for Whitney... to stand against bullying... to stand against being mean. A dress shop donated her dress, a florist donated flowers and a salon did her hair and nails for the big event. Good for them!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tzlqBh9Jyh0&feature=related (local story - 2 minutes)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k8PAf472QnM&feature=related (CNN - 2 minutes)
Your Turn
1) Why do you think someone would initially think this is a good idea?
2) Why did so many students go along with this idea? Why wouldn't someone just tell a teacher or the principal what was going on?
3) If you were the administration, what would you do in this situation?
4) How do you think Whitney, the school and town will be changed by this incident?
5) This became a national story covered by most of the cable news networks? Why? What do you think the moral of the story is?
A Heart-Warming Story
At a major league baseball game this summer, two young fans tried to catch a baseball that was thrown into the stands by a player. Of course, one caught it and one didn't. The boy who caught the ball, Ian, celebrated and ran back to his seat. However, when he turned around, he saw the other boy crying. Without any prompting, he decided to give the ball to this boy.
The announcers saw all of this unfold and commented on this random act of kindness. They were so impressed by Ian's generosity that they decided to reward his selflessness. Ian received an autographed bat, was introduced to members of the team and threw out the ceremonial first pitch at the next night's game. They were highly praised for doing the right thing.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QfF1m3-Dl_Q
Author's Perspective (Positive): When interviewed about the incident, Ian said, "My mom and dad taught me that way...so it just came natural." One announcer said, "That's good home training," while the other one commented, "That's a very well-bred young man." It reminded me of the enormous impact that parents and teachers have on the morality and the actions of young people. I hope all parents spend time teaching such values and virtues to their children.
Author's Perspective (Negative): The announcers commented, "I can't believe I just witnessed that... You, young man, are a star!" I might just be in a cynical mood, but is our world that void of character that we need to make such a fuss? Don't get me wrong, I thought it was a noble gesture and I also like to point out when people do the right thing. The announcers seem to be implying that they have never seen a fan do something so kind and/or they would not expect others in the same situation to do the same thing. ABC News thought it was such a shift from the norm that they decided to make Ian their national person of the week. My reaction to that is, "Really?" Has our society dipped that low? Are "we" really that mean? Uncaring? Selfish? Is Ian one in a thousand kids, one a a hundred or is he pretty typical of what "you" would have done? I prefer to think the latter.
Your Turn:
1) Is Ian unique or is he pretty typical? Why or why not?
2) It's very easy to say what you would have done and to give yourself credit, but think of something that you really care about (like an autograph from your favorite celebrity) and ask yourself if you would have done the same thing? Take a poll in your class.
3) How much an impact do you think a parent has on a child's morality and behavior? What about teachers? Other adults? Friends? Who has influenced you the most?
The announcers saw all of this unfold and commented on this random act of kindness. They were so impressed by Ian's generosity that they decided to reward his selflessness. Ian received an autographed bat, was introduced to members of the team and threw out the ceremonial first pitch at the next night's game. They were highly praised for doing the right thing.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QfF1m3-Dl_Q
Author's Perspective (Positive): When interviewed about the incident, Ian said, "My mom and dad taught me that way...so it just came natural." One announcer said, "That's good home training," while the other one commented, "That's a very well-bred young man." It reminded me of the enormous impact that parents and teachers have on the morality and the actions of young people. I hope all parents spend time teaching such values and virtues to their children.
Author's Perspective (Negative): The announcers commented, "I can't believe I just witnessed that... You, young man, are a star!" I might just be in a cynical mood, but is our world that void of character that we need to make such a fuss? Don't get me wrong, I thought it was a noble gesture and I also like to point out when people do the right thing. The announcers seem to be implying that they have never seen a fan do something so kind and/or they would not expect others in the same situation to do the same thing. ABC News thought it was such a shift from the norm that they decided to make Ian their national person of the week. My reaction to that is, "Really?" Has our society dipped that low? Are "we" really that mean? Uncaring? Selfish? Is Ian one in a thousand kids, one a a hundred or is he pretty typical of what "you" would have done? I prefer to think the latter.
Your Turn:
1) Is Ian unique or is he pretty typical? Why or why not?
2) It's very easy to say what you would have done and to give yourself credit, but think of something that you really care about (like an autograph from your favorite celebrity) and ask yourself if you would have done the same thing? Take a poll in your class.
3) How much an impact do you think a parent has on a child's morality and behavior? What about teachers? Other adults? Friends? Who has influenced you the most?
Thursday, September 6, 2012
Say It Isn't So...Lance
Barry Bonds, Mark McGwire, Marian Jones, Roger Clemens, Ben Johnson...let me tell you, the list of professional athletes who used performance enhancing drugs could go on and on and on. Well, the list grew by one very prominent athlete last week. Lance Armstrong, cancer survivor and 7 time Tour de France winner most likely cheated his way to those victories.
While the evidence is not conclusive and it was not proven in a court of law, several of his former teammates came forward to corroborate Armstrong's drug use. These teammates saw him inject himself and they claim that cheating was a part of the team culture. The United States Anti-Doping Agency is probably going to strip Armstrong of his 7 titles and ban him from the sport for life.
Armstrong's response to the latest charges - no contest. "I'm finished with this nonsense," he said. "There comes a point in every man's life when he has to say, 'Enough is enough'. For me, that time is now." To be fair, Armstrong has consistently stated his innocence to numerous doping allegations over the years. He has been tested for drugs hundreds of times and he never tested positive.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fGOhX6ymj38&feature=related (case against Armstrong)
http://www.lancearmstrong.com/foundation\ (Armstrong response)
Author's Perspective: For me, it's another role model who has failed us...another individual who lowered the bar for our youth...another person who sacrificed their integrity to merely win...another cheater. I can't tell you how close I was to putting Lance Armstrong in my role model book for perseverance. He was a cherished role model of mine- the key word is "was."
Your Turn
1) After watching these videos, do you think Armstrong is guilty or is this a witch hunt on an innocent man?
2) On a scale of 1-10, how big of a deal is this case?
3) We tell the next generation not to cheat in school or lie to get ahead...we stress character and integrity... but I wonder if cases like this lowers the bar and/or make you more cynical.
While the evidence is not conclusive and it was not proven in a court of law, several of his former teammates came forward to corroborate Armstrong's drug use. These teammates saw him inject himself and they claim that cheating was a part of the team culture. The United States Anti-Doping Agency is probably going to strip Armstrong of his 7 titles and ban him from the sport for life.
Armstrong's response to the latest charges - no contest. "I'm finished with this nonsense," he said. "There comes a point in every man's life when he has to say, 'Enough is enough'. For me, that time is now." To be fair, Armstrong has consistently stated his innocence to numerous doping allegations over the years. He has been tested for drugs hundreds of times and he never tested positive.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fGOhX6ymj38&feature=related (case against Armstrong)
http://www.lancearmstrong.com/foundation\ (Armstrong response)
Author's Perspective: For me, it's another role model who has failed us...another individual who lowered the bar for our youth...another person who sacrificed their integrity to merely win...another cheater. I can't tell you how close I was to putting Lance Armstrong in my role model book for perseverance. He was a cherished role model of mine- the key word is "was."
Your Turn
1) After watching these videos, do you think Armstrong is guilty or is this a witch hunt on an innocent man?
2) On a scale of 1-10, how big of a deal is this case?
3) We tell the next generation not to cheat in school or lie to get ahead...we stress character and integrity... but I wonder if cases like this lowers the bar and/or make you more cynical.
Live Life to the Fullest
I was looking through my photos on my cell phone from the past year and I couldn't believe how blessed I am to lead such a full life. I can't believe all the places I've been and all of the experiences I've had. I am always telling students to live their lives with passion, to not sit on the sidelines of life as others play the game, so I am pleased that I have taken my own advice.
I know what many of you are thinking. "Easy for you to say, you travel with your job" or "I don't have enough gas money to get to 7-11, how am I supposed to do such things." These are good points. Truth is, I never made it out of Michigan until I was 17 years old.
I would argue that you don't have to travel the globe in order to live your life with passion. Sure, it looks prettier in pictures, but consider this point. Many thousands of years ago, it was alleged that in order to get into Egyptian Heaven, you were asked two questions upon your death. 1) Did you find joy in your life? 2) Did you provide others joy? Your answers determined whether or not you made it into heaven.
Can it really be that simple - to find joy and provide others joy in this lifetime? It's not that bad of a life philosophy, if you ask me.
Your turn
1) Have you found joy in your life? 2) Do you provide others joy? Can you provide examples?
3) Are you sitting on the sidelines of life or are you out there playing this game of life?
4) If I asked you to display pictures of your life over the last year, what would your life look like?
I know what many of you are thinking. "Easy for you to say, you travel with your job" or "I don't have enough gas money to get to 7-11, how am I supposed to do such things." These are good points. Truth is, I never made it out of Michigan until I was 17 years old.
I would argue that you don't have to travel the globe in order to live your life with passion. Sure, it looks prettier in pictures, but consider this point. Many thousands of years ago, it was alleged that in order to get into Egyptian Heaven, you were asked two questions upon your death. 1) Did you find joy in your life? 2) Did you provide others joy? Your answers determined whether or not you made it into heaven.
Can it really be that simple - to find joy and provide others joy in this lifetime? It's not that bad of a life philosophy, if you ask me.
Your turn
1) Have you found joy in your life? 2) Do you provide others joy? Can you provide examples?
3) Are you sitting on the sidelines of life or are you out there playing this game of life?
4) If I asked you to display pictures of your life over the last year, what would your life look like?
Saturday, August 18, 2012
Lazy Teens or Grumpy Old Man?
I know what you are thinking. This is another example of someone from the older generation saying, "These kids today just aren't responsible, respectful, resourceful..." This may be true, but I had two recent experiences that gave credence to this gentleman's opinion. 1) I had a 17- year- old stay with us for a week this summer with his family. I asked him what he did for fun this summer and he said, "Watch TV, play video games and chat with people on facebook." I noted that all of this is done in his house and he said, "Well, there isn't much to do in Winston-Salem, North Carolina." Hmmm.
2) Last week I was speaking to about 50 students at Northwest High School in Cincinnati, Ohio (shout out to those awesome students for making it such a life-changing experience). I sat next to a sophomore and a junior at lunch. One said to the other, "By the time August came around, I was so bored that I was looking forward to coming back to school." The other student responded, "I know. I can only watch so much TV in a given day." Wow!
Your Turn
Do you think that this generation is more bored than previous generations? Why or why not?
What did you do for fun this summer? Were you bored? Were you active?
Does social media actually help teenagers do more activities together?
Do you feel that it is the role of the community, government or your parents to provide "things" for you to do? Or is it your responsibility to find things to do?
Thursday, August 9, 2012
Penn State Needed A Hero
Yes, I read all 161 pages of the Freeh Report on the Jerry Sandusky sexual abuse case at Penn State University. I read this report because everyone seems to have a comment and an opinion on this case, but very few people have read the report. It is important to have educated opinions, particularly before making public comments in this type of forum. If you are interested, you too, can read the report below.
http://www.thefreehreportonpsu.com/REPORT_FINAL_071212.pdf
One of the facts that I learned from the Freeh Report is that two people were eye-witnesses to the sexual abuse. One was a janitor and the other was an assistant football coach. The other fact is that at least 16 people were informed of this abuse (not all were Penn State officials), including police officers.
My overwhelming thought is that any of these individuals could have spoken up, demanded answers, held a news conference... If any had, he/she would have been heralded as a hero! It is important to note that a person doesn't need to be in a leadership position to act responsibly and follow through. Why do we hold the assistant football coach accountable and let the janitor off easy. Is one more or less accountable for the welfare of children? We blame the president of the university and the head football coach for not doing enough, but do we have the same standards for the mom who suspected her son was abused?
My point is that we all need to act as leaders, regardless of whether or not we are in a leadership position. Had anyone of those 18 individuals demanded answers and followed through, they would have been called heroes. They would have been put on magazine covers and probably received "person of the year" honors from multiple sources. No one did, and we are left wondering why.
Let this be a lesson to you: if you encounter wrong-doing, don't look the other way. Take action, do something about it, report it to the authorities. I understand that "no snitchin" is the unwritten code among teenagers, but the Penn State case should make us all question this code. It's no longer okay to say, "That's not my job." It's no longer acceptable to look the other way and hope that someone else will take care of the problem. The world needs more "leaders" who do the right thing and a few more heroes.
Your Turn
What will you do if you witness a student bullying another student?
What will you do if you witness a student cheating on a test?
What will you do if you hear a rumor that someone brought a weapon into school?
What will you do if you witness or hear about a principal/teacher who is doing something unethical?
http://www.thefreehreportonpsu.com/REPORT_FINAL_071212.pdf
One of the facts that I learned from the Freeh Report is that two people were eye-witnesses to the sexual abuse. One was a janitor and the other was an assistant football coach. The other fact is that at least 16 people were informed of this abuse (not all were Penn State officials), including police officers.
My overwhelming thought is that any of these individuals could have spoken up, demanded answers, held a news conference... If any had, he/she would have been heralded as a hero! It is important to note that a person doesn't need to be in a leadership position to act responsibly and follow through. Why do we hold the assistant football coach accountable and let the janitor off easy. Is one more or less accountable for the welfare of children? We blame the president of the university and the head football coach for not doing enough, but do we have the same standards for the mom who suspected her son was abused?
My point is that we all need to act as leaders, regardless of whether or not we are in a leadership position. Had anyone of those 18 individuals demanded answers and followed through, they would have been called heroes. They would have been put on magazine covers and probably received "person of the year" honors from multiple sources. No one did, and we are left wondering why.
Let this be a lesson to you: if you encounter wrong-doing, don't look the other way. Take action, do something about it, report it to the authorities. I understand that "no snitchin" is the unwritten code among teenagers, but the Penn State case should make us all question this code. It's no longer okay to say, "That's not my job." It's no longer acceptable to look the other way and hope that someone else will take care of the problem. The world needs more "leaders" who do the right thing and a few more heroes.
Your Turn
What will you do if you witness a student bullying another student?
What will you do if you witness a student cheating on a test?
What will you do if you hear a rumor that someone brought a weapon into school?
What will you do if you witness or hear about a principal/teacher who is doing something unethical?
Wednesday, June 20, 2012
Poor Sportsmanship or Great Effort?
I was searching the Internet for examples of poor sportsmanship and I found this video of a girl's high school basketball team (Christian Heritage) beating their opponent (West Point Academy) by a score of 108-3. I watched the news report and I thought it was a great debate - was this poor sportsmanship or merely a case of one team playing to their maximum capabilities to annihilate an inferior team? Watch it first for yourself:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ml3hLM3pI00
A little aside: The most difficult part of this experience for me was reading the comments below the video. People expressed their opinions in such a rude, mean and aggressive manner. I thought this was a great story that should inspire debate as good points were made on each side. I hope that people make respectful comments on this website and others.
Point: The principal from the winning school felt his team should not embarrass another team in such a manner. He seemed to express that it was rude to beat another team by so many points. Exercise restraint, good-judgement, empathy - this was his main point.
Counter Point: The coach of the winning school said that he wants his players to compete to their highest ability regardless of the ability. He thinks it's dishonest and awkward to tell his players not to play hard for the entire game. He thinks that not playing "straight up" would be a greater insult to the opponent than beating them by 100 points.
Author's Perspective: High school athletics teaches competition, effort and teamwork. It teaches the hard lessons of losing and it teaches us how to push ourselves to get better for the next game. I also believe that high school athletics teaches us respect for the other team, sportsmanship and how to handle such moments with class and dignity. Coaches are teachers and should promote such values. If I were the coach, I would have said, "We are up by 50 points. There is no reason to pad your stats or embarrass this team any further." I would have put in the 3rd string. I would have called off the full-court press. I would have told my players to make 4 passes before taking a shot. There is a reason that most states use a running clock when one team is up by 25 or more points in basketball or exercise the mercy rule in baseball when a team is up by 10 runs. In the end, it is still about character, integrity and doing the right thing. I believe the coach did the wrong thing.
Your turn:
What would you have done if you were the coach of a team that was up by 50 points at halftime?
What lessons would you want each team to learn from this experience?
How do you think the parents of the winning team and losing team feel?
If you agree with me, would you tell an athlete in an individual sport like track, wrestling or swimming to take it easy on the next race or opponent? (BTW - I would not).
If you disagree with me, how do you teach sportsmanship, respect, compassion and other essential character traits?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ml3hLM3pI00
A little aside: The most difficult part of this experience for me was reading the comments below the video. People expressed their opinions in such a rude, mean and aggressive manner. I thought this was a great story that should inspire debate as good points were made on each side. I hope that people make respectful comments on this website and others.
Point: The principal from the winning school felt his team should not embarrass another team in such a manner. He seemed to express that it was rude to beat another team by so many points. Exercise restraint, good-judgement, empathy - this was his main point.
Counter Point: The coach of the winning school said that he wants his players to compete to their highest ability regardless of the ability. He thinks it's dishonest and awkward to tell his players not to play hard for the entire game. He thinks that not playing "straight up" would be a greater insult to the opponent than beating them by 100 points.
Author's Perspective: High school athletics teaches competition, effort and teamwork. It teaches the hard lessons of losing and it teaches us how to push ourselves to get better for the next game. I also believe that high school athletics teaches us respect for the other team, sportsmanship and how to handle such moments with class and dignity. Coaches are teachers and should promote such values. If I were the coach, I would have said, "We are up by 50 points. There is no reason to pad your stats or embarrass this team any further." I would have put in the 3rd string. I would have called off the full-court press. I would have told my players to make 4 passes before taking a shot. There is a reason that most states use a running clock when one team is up by 25 or more points in basketball or exercise the mercy rule in baseball when a team is up by 10 runs. In the end, it is still about character, integrity and doing the right thing. I believe the coach did the wrong thing.
Your turn:
What would you have done if you were the coach of a team that was up by 50 points at halftime?
What lessons would you want each team to learn from this experience?
How do you think the parents of the winning team and losing team feel?
If you agree with me, would you tell an athlete in an individual sport like track, wrestling or swimming to take it easy on the next race or opponent? (BTW - I would not).
If you disagree with me, how do you teach sportsmanship, respect, compassion and other essential character traits?
Sunday, May 20, 2012
Am I Allowed to Have Higher Expectations?
We have all seen so many of these kinds of stories that we typically just shake our heads and say, "Seriously. Does anyone have any integrity anymore?" I remember when I was teaching this class on character and leadership back in 2001 and Kobe Bryant, a married man, was accused of raping a woman in a Denver hotel room. While we still don't know the particulars of that night, we do know that Kobe had sex with someone who was not his wife. My students said to me, "If you can't expect that of Kobe Bryant, you can't expect that of me." Kobe lowered the bar of societal expectations. Since that day, I have seen scandal after scandal that cumulatively lowers the bar for the next generation.
The problem is that we get desensitized. We start to think there is a new norm - the way we do when we watch Jersey Shore or The Real House Wives of Beverly Hills. I'm not naive here. I know the stats. Roughly 50% of husbands cheat and wives are not too far behind anymore in that category. But, that still means that roughly 50% of spouses don't cheat.
Yes, tomorrow some athlete, celebrity or politician will get caught up in the next scandal and we will all shake our heads in unison. There is always another story. But, I must say, that I was a little surprised by the actions of a group of secret service agents, the ones who are charged with protecting the president of the United States. I was left wondering, am I just crazy enough to think that we shouldn't raise our expectations? Shouldn't we all expect more from "the best of the best"? Shouldn't we expect more from society and its participants in general? Don't words like character, integrity and good-judgment mean anything anymore. I don't know, but I can't help feeling a little deflated after reading a story like this. What say you?
http://abcnews.go.com/WNT/video/columbia-obama-president-secret-service-prostitute-scandal-16187856
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VDKgXrsXX7s&feature=relmfu
The problem is that we get desensitized. We start to think there is a new norm - the way we do when we watch Jersey Shore or The Real House Wives of Beverly Hills. I'm not naive here. I know the stats. Roughly 50% of husbands cheat and wives are not too far behind anymore in that category. But, that still means that roughly 50% of spouses don't cheat.
Yes, tomorrow some athlete, celebrity or politician will get caught up in the next scandal and we will all shake our heads in unison. There is always another story. But, I must say, that I was a little surprised by the actions of a group of secret service agents, the ones who are charged with protecting the president of the United States. I was left wondering, am I just crazy enough to think that we shouldn't raise our expectations? Shouldn't we all expect more from "the best of the best"? Shouldn't we expect more from society and its participants in general? Don't words like character, integrity and good-judgment mean anything anymore. I don't know, but I can't help feeling a little deflated after reading a story like this. What say you?
http://abcnews.go.com/WNT/video/columbia-obama-president-secret-service-prostitute-scandal-16187856
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VDKgXrsXX7s&feature=relmfu
Friday, May 4, 2012
True Heroes: A Story of Courage & Bravery
Imagine that you are on spring break and going out for a late bite to eat. Suddenly, a car races past you and crashes into a tree and bursts into flames. What do you do? Seriously? What would you do?
Well, Cody Decker and Luke Vaughn, two teenagers from DeWitt High School in Michigan, MI, found themselves in just this situation on April 4, 2012 in Florida. Literally, without hesitation, Vaughn called 911 and Decker raced towards the car to provide immediate assistance. Despite running 1/4 of a mile, they were the only ones to arrive on the scene. They found a man and a woman trapped inside, screaming for their lives. Decker broke the driver's side window and had to bend the door frame to get the couple out of the car safely. Together, the boys dragged the couple to safety.
Jessica Lopez, the daughter of the the woman in the crash said, "If it wasn't for them, we'd be attending two funerals right now." This is probably true. Others saw the crash and did nothing. These 17 year old boys responded. They responded with courage. They responded with bravery. They responded with good judgement. They responded with immediate action, which is what the situation required. I am wondering, out loud, if you or I would have acted similarly.
Please watch 1 or 2 of these clips. Take a few minutes to honor these true heroes.
http://www.fox47news.com/news/topstories/146642445.html
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/04/07/michigan-teenagers-cody-d_n_1408605.html
Well, Cody Decker and Luke Vaughn, two teenagers from DeWitt High School in Michigan, MI, found themselves in just this situation on April 4, 2012 in Florida. Literally, without hesitation, Vaughn called 911 and Decker raced towards the car to provide immediate assistance. Despite running 1/4 of a mile, they were the only ones to arrive on the scene. They found a man and a woman trapped inside, screaming for their lives. Decker broke the driver's side window and had to bend the door frame to get the couple out of the car safely. Together, the boys dragged the couple to safety.
Jessica Lopez, the daughter of the the woman in the crash said, "If it wasn't for them, we'd be attending two funerals right now." This is probably true. Others saw the crash and did nothing. These 17 year old boys responded. They responded with courage. They responded with bravery. They responded with good judgement. They responded with immediate action, which is what the situation required. I am wondering, out loud, if you or I would have acted similarly.
Please watch 1 or 2 of these clips. Take a few minutes to honor these true heroes.
http://www.fox47news.com/news/topstories/146642445.html
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/04/07/michigan-teenagers-cody-d_n_1408605.html
Sunday, March 25, 2012
Still Think Honesty Doesn't Matter?
Jermaine Jones, also known as the Gentle Giant, on American Idol was booted off the show because he had four warrants out for his arrest. Apparently, he did not disclose this information or the incidences that led to these charges. In this video clip below, the producers say that they would have worked with him to clear up his record had he been honest, but because he was not honest, they had to let him go.
While I do not approve of the public way they outed Jermaine on public television without any warning and the fact that they didn't talk to him more about these matters before making their final decision, this needs to be another reminder that whenever you lie or try to cover something up, it usually comes back to bite you. In this case, his shot at becoming the next American Idol was lost.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?NR=1&v=arGTP9irVus&feature=endscreen
Discussion Questions:
1) What kind of advice do you think Jermaine would give to someone else in his shoes?
2) Do you think that you would have disclosed these warrants for your arrest? Would you have discussed it with people on the show and asked for assistance?
3) Have there been times in your life when you lied about something and it hurt you in the long run?
4) What is your opinion about how the executives at American Idol handled this issue? What would you have done differently if you were in their shoes?
While I do not approve of the public way they outed Jermaine on public television without any warning and the fact that they didn't talk to him more about these matters before making their final decision, this needs to be another reminder that whenever you lie or try to cover something up, it usually comes back to bite you. In this case, his shot at becoming the next American Idol was lost.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?NR=1&v=arGTP9irVus&feature=endscreen
Discussion Questions:
1) What kind of advice do you think Jermaine would give to someone else in his shoes?
2) Do you think that you would have disclosed these warrants for your arrest? Would you have discussed it with people on the show and asked for assistance?
3) Have there been times in your life when you lied about something and it hurt you in the long run?
4) What is your opinion about how the executives at American Idol handled this issue? What would you have done differently if you were in their shoes?
Monday, March 12, 2012
A Unique Comparison on Public Assistance
I am providing 3 links below. The first link is about a woman, Amanda Clayton, who won 1 million dollars in the Michigan State Lottery last year. At the time, she was receiving $200 in food stamps each month. She did not cancel her public assistance and continued to receive these food stamps.
The next two links are from the movie, Cinderella Man. In the first scene, you will see Jimmy Braddock turning to his former boxing colleagues to ask for money after just signing up for public assistance (scene not shown). In the next scene you will see him being interviewed about returning the public assistance money he received from the government. Before you say, "this is Hollywood", please know that this movie is based on the actual events that occurred in Jimmy Braddock's life. We know this is factually accurate.
http://foxnewsinsider.com/2012/03/08/update-million-dollar-lotto-winner-loses-food-stamp-benefits/
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lNXTKVxOmfk
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JCKh3Jsge4E&feature=relmfu
Opinion: Let's remember that public assistance was provided by the government to help people who really needed it and had no other way out. It is one of the roles of government to provide such help in desperate times. Let's also remember that those payments, while handed out by the government, actually come from the taxes of other working Americans. As a taxpaying American, I believe we (our country) have an obligation to help those who are struggling. I also believe that public assistance is not a right or something to be taken advantage of. That's why I believe the lottery winner in Michigan should have discontinued her benefits. This is called fraud and taking advantage of the system, which is morally wrong (yes, I said it).
My questions to you:
1) Do you side with the way Jimmy Braddock viewed public assistance (helping a good man when he's down) or with Amanda Clayton's view, (I have bills to pay too - hey, it's free money)?
2) Do you understand that public assistance leads to higher taxes out of your paycheck? Does it seem like Amanda Clayton was playing the system?
3) There is a current debate in government that looks at the amount of weeks someone should receive unemployment benefits from the government. Right now, it is 52 weeks (one year). Some say that it should be extended. Others say that the government, which is 13 trillion dollars in debt, can't continue to support people who are out of work for longer than a year. What is your opinion? Be sure to look at it from all angles.
4) Do you think that the current generation of Americans have a different viewpoint of public assistance than those Americans who lived during the Great Depression? If so, what factors have led to this change?
5) This debate rages on, particularly with the "Occupy Wallstreet" movement. Some say this movement has legitimate points. Some say this viewpoint is the problem with America. On the other end of the spectrum, the "Tea Party" movement is saying that the Government needs to balance the budget and decrease taxes. Others feel their views are extreme and insensitive. What say you?
6) Finally, did you know that 70% of lottery winners blow through all of their money within a few years. http://journalstar.com/special-section/news/article_ecba141b-3e59-5914-a321-38b4adb20733.html. Did you catch that this woman, Amanda Clayton, who is still on public assistance, has two house payments? That means she went out and bought another house and probably a lot of off "things" with her money. My guess is she will be in the 70%. This embedded article says that character is the difference between profiting and blowing the money.
The next two links are from the movie, Cinderella Man. In the first scene, you will see Jimmy Braddock turning to his former boxing colleagues to ask for money after just signing up for public assistance (scene not shown). In the next scene you will see him being interviewed about returning the public assistance money he received from the government. Before you say, "this is Hollywood", please know that this movie is based on the actual events that occurred in Jimmy Braddock's life. We know this is factually accurate.
http://foxnewsinsider.com/2012/03/08/update-million-dollar-lotto-winner-loses-food-stamp-benefits/
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lNXTKVxOmfk
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JCKh3Jsge4E&feature=relmfu
Opinion: Let's remember that public assistance was provided by the government to help people who really needed it and had no other way out. It is one of the roles of government to provide such help in desperate times. Let's also remember that those payments, while handed out by the government, actually come from the taxes of other working Americans. As a taxpaying American, I believe we (our country) have an obligation to help those who are struggling. I also believe that public assistance is not a right or something to be taken advantage of. That's why I believe the lottery winner in Michigan should have discontinued her benefits. This is called fraud and taking advantage of the system, which is morally wrong (yes, I said it).
My questions to you:
1) Do you side with the way Jimmy Braddock viewed public assistance (helping a good man when he's down) or with Amanda Clayton's view, (I have bills to pay too - hey, it's free money)?
2) Do you understand that public assistance leads to higher taxes out of your paycheck? Does it seem like Amanda Clayton was playing the system?
3) There is a current debate in government that looks at the amount of weeks someone should receive unemployment benefits from the government. Right now, it is 52 weeks (one year). Some say that it should be extended. Others say that the government, which is 13 trillion dollars in debt, can't continue to support people who are out of work for longer than a year. What is your opinion? Be sure to look at it from all angles.
4) Do you think that the current generation of Americans have a different viewpoint of public assistance than those Americans who lived during the Great Depression? If so, what factors have led to this change?
5) This debate rages on, particularly with the "Occupy Wallstreet" movement. Some say this movement has legitimate points. Some say this viewpoint is the problem with America. On the other end of the spectrum, the "Tea Party" movement is saying that the Government needs to balance the budget and decrease taxes. Others feel their views are extreme and insensitive. What say you?
6) Finally, did you know that 70% of lottery winners blow through all of their money within a few years. http://journalstar.com/special-section/news/article_ecba141b-3e59-5914-a321-38b4adb20733.html. Did you catch that this woman, Amanda Clayton, who is still on public assistance, has two house payments? That means she went out and bought another house and probably a lot of off "things" with her money. My guess is she will be in the 70%. This embedded article says that character is the difference between profiting and blowing the money.
Monday, January 30, 2012
Final Thoughts On Joe Paterno
I have seen lots of individuals, who were considered positive role models, let us down. The names of Tiger Woods, Bill Clinton, OJ Simpson and Michael Phelps come to mind. To be honest, it really hurts to see Joe Paterno on that list. For me personally, it's difficult to see a legend, who did so many great things, go out like this. It seems that he exemplified all of the traits covered in this curriculum for a very long time. It also goes against my belief to throw someone under the bus for one lapse in judgment unless it's something terrible and/or done with malice. Yet, I know many feel that his handling of the alleged abuse case at Penn State meets that criteria... which is why I will not provide a long commentary on this matter. Instead I ask you to watch the short video and then discuss it yourself. Just keep in mind that there are no right answers, just opions based on emotion and perspective.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U1zK80YIuyw
What is Joe Paterno's legacy?
Should the media have been so quick to judge? Do you think some of them felt bad about their harsh comments when he died?
Did it make you sad that his life ended in this bitter way or was it Karma? Poetic Justice?
How do you balance all the good in his life with his lack of action on the abuse scandal?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U1zK80YIuyw
What is Joe Paterno's legacy?
Should the media have been so quick to judge? Do you think some of them felt bad about their harsh comments when he died?
Did it make you sad that his life ended in this bitter way or was it Karma? Poetic Justice?
How do you balance all the good in his life with his lack of action on the abuse scandal?
Sunday, January 15, 2012
Attitude Goes A Long Way...Literally
I woke up at 6:40 a.m. to the sound of my wife saying, "Aren't you supposed to be at the airport?" I flew out of bed, but as I rubbed my blurry eyes, I instantly knew that it was too late. For the first time that I can recall, I missed a flight and it was my own fault. I forgot to set my own alarm.
I proceeded to go downstairs and call U.S. Airlines to find out my options. The customer service representative told me that I would have to pay a $150 change fee + the cost of the new ticket. If you don't know, buying a plane ticket on the day of travel is astronomically expensive. My $285 flight to Sacramento, California was about to cost me about a thousand dollars. This was not the news I was hoping to hear. I asked the rep if there were other options and he told me to get to the airport within two hours of the originally schedule flight and they might be able to do something for me.
I arrived at Detroit Metro Airport at 9 a.m. or 1.5 hours after my originally scheduled flight. There were many ways to play the upcoming conversation. In the end, I knew this was my fault and that I was at the mercy of the next U.S. Air employee. When Brenda said, "next," I knew that I just needed to be polite and contrite. "I have never done this before, but I overslept and missed my flight this morning," I began. "Although this is entirely my fault, I sure hope that you can accommodate me and not make this too painful." I could tell that Brenda was pleasantly surprised that I didn't give her any attitude or make any demands (she must get that all day - day after day). She proceeded to spend the next 30 minutes with me - looking at every possible option - and the options weren't good. Everything was booked for the next 30 hours.
I could take a flight with 4 connections, which would take close to 15 hours or I could chance it by becoming a "stand-by" passenger on a flight that was overbooked. This was complicated by checked luggage and a number of contingencies. We talked about it and I decided on instinct that I should take the "stand-by" option. Brenda was so helpful and accommodating that I asked her if I could by her lunch. She told me that I didn't have to, but I insisted and placed a $20 bill by her computer. After all, as I see it, she saved me about $700 in fees (what I call "Stupid Tax" when it is my fault).
She took my cell phone number and kept me updated. There were 114 slots and 30 minutes prior to take off, she called to say that 113 passengers had checked in. By rule, no one can get through security less than 30 minutes prior to take off, meaning that I was going to make that flight. I can't tell you how relieved and excited I was. I needed to be in California for business and Brenda saved the day. I arrived in California a mere 3 hours later than my originally scheduled flight.
I do wonder what would have happened if I had been rude or demanding to Brenda. Would she have been so accommodating? Would she have waved those "change" fees? I don't know, but I like to think that my honest approach and positive attitude altered the situation. While I was at the airline's mercy, I still could control how I approached the situation and ultimately, the outcome. You might want to try this approach and see what happens.
In the end, 1) I sent a nice letter to U.S. Air regarding Brenda's outstanding customer service, 2) Brenda got a nice tip and a good lunch because she was kind and helpful to a stranger and 3) I got where I was going without too much hassle. Here's one more thank you to Brenda for making my day!
I proceeded to go downstairs and call U.S. Airlines to find out my options. The customer service representative told me that I would have to pay a $150 change fee + the cost of the new ticket. If you don't know, buying a plane ticket on the day of travel is astronomically expensive. My $285 flight to Sacramento, California was about to cost me about a thousand dollars. This was not the news I was hoping to hear. I asked the rep if there were other options and he told me to get to the airport within two hours of the originally schedule flight and they might be able to do something for me.
I arrived at Detroit Metro Airport at 9 a.m. or 1.5 hours after my originally scheduled flight. There were many ways to play the upcoming conversation. In the end, I knew this was my fault and that I was at the mercy of the next U.S. Air employee. When Brenda said, "next," I knew that I just needed to be polite and contrite. "I have never done this before, but I overslept and missed my flight this morning," I began. "Although this is entirely my fault, I sure hope that you can accommodate me and not make this too painful." I could tell that Brenda was pleasantly surprised that I didn't give her any attitude or make any demands (she must get that all day - day after day). She proceeded to spend the next 30 minutes with me - looking at every possible option - and the options weren't good. Everything was booked for the next 30 hours.
I could take a flight with 4 connections, which would take close to 15 hours or I could chance it by becoming a "stand-by" passenger on a flight that was overbooked. This was complicated by checked luggage and a number of contingencies. We talked about it and I decided on instinct that I should take the "stand-by" option. Brenda was so helpful and accommodating that I asked her if I could by her lunch. She told me that I didn't have to, but I insisted and placed a $20 bill by her computer. After all, as I see it, she saved me about $700 in fees (what I call "Stupid Tax" when it is my fault).
She took my cell phone number and kept me updated. There were 114 slots and 30 minutes prior to take off, she called to say that 113 passengers had checked in. By rule, no one can get through security less than 30 minutes prior to take off, meaning that I was going to make that flight. I can't tell you how relieved and excited I was. I needed to be in California for business and Brenda saved the day. I arrived in California a mere 3 hours later than my originally scheduled flight.
I do wonder what would have happened if I had been rude or demanding to Brenda. Would she have been so accommodating? Would she have waved those "change" fees? I don't know, but I like to think that my honest approach and positive attitude altered the situation. While I was at the airline's mercy, I still could control how I approached the situation and ultimately, the outcome. You might want to try this approach and see what happens.
In the end, 1) I sent a nice letter to U.S. Air regarding Brenda's outstanding customer service, 2) Brenda got a nice tip and a good lunch because she was kind and helpful to a stranger and 3) I got where I was going without too much hassle. Here's one more thank you to Brenda for making my day!
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